Vancouver often gets a bad wrap for our dating scene. But there are tons of intelligent, attractive, high-integrity, and outgoing catches out there. To showcase some of these great catches, I have a series with the 24 Hours Newspaper profiling Vancouver’s top bachelors and bachelorettes.
Name: Adam Graham, Financial Advisor
What do you look for in a partner?
Someone who wants a partner to complement her, not complete her. Physical chemistry is key but just as important is someone who is supportive, independent, easy going, and has a good sense of humor about herself. And any woman who can rock a good set of heels never hurts.
What is a turn-off?
Any woman who calls herself a “princess.” You are many things but one of them is not being born in a magical kingdom with dwarves, witches, princes and/or evil step sisters. Confidence is sexy and calling yourself a princess doesn’t scream confidence, it screams needy and high-maintenance.
What did you learn from your last relationship?
Right girl + wrong time = wrong girl. The timing has to be right. Otherwise, the person may be great, but there will be friction in the relationship and inevitably, it’s doomed to fail.
The right timing is a sentiment echoed often by men. Why is this?
A lot of men need to set up a certain foundation before they are able to welcome a woman into their life. We need to get to a place where we feel comfortable with ourselves – whether that be in our career, our experience in the world, etc. before we can truly settle down with the right woman.
How is it possible to sustain passion after years of being in a relationship?
Regardless of who you are, the lust and physical attraction you have in the beginning is not sustainable.
When those fiery levels of physical attraction subside, my hope is that you are still attracted to the core of that person – emotionally, intellectually, etc. You are attracted to who that person is and their values – and that goes beyond just the physical.
What has been your experience dating in Vancouver?
Meeting women in Vancouver gets a bad wrap. I hear men say that women in Vancouver are snobby. I don’t subscribe to that philosophy. I think there are a lot of open, fantastic, quality women here. Perhaps the problem is the approach.
I don’t think you should approach a woman with any expectations other than hoping to get to know an interesting person. Women can pick up whether you’re being genuine or not. Being respectful with a simple hello and an introduction will get a better reception than approaching a woman with a pick up line after 10 shots at the bar. And if you do strike out for whatever reason, suck it up! Grow a thicker skin. Don’t become jaded by rejection. You may have to meet a lot of people but hey, it only takes one.
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