5 Ways to Cope After a Breakup

After a breakup, while you logically might know the relationship is over, you body and brain is in a state of shock. It’s used to getting its feel good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin from the relationship, and now that supply is cut off –...

Apr 7 · 4 min read >

There’s a Secret Stage of Healing from Heartbreak That You Need to Know

Research suggests that grieving the end of a relationship is much like grieving a death. A popular framework is the Six Stages of Separation (shock, denial, depression, anger, bargaining and acceptance) which mirror the stages of grief. But after having worked with thousands of people...

Mar 8 · 4 min read >

It’s Global Un-Cuffing Season – Tips For Healing From a Breakup

Thanks to the panny d, break up and divorce rates have been increasing around the world. It’s basically a global un-cuffing season. Here are a few tips to help you move the f*ck on.

Feb 9 · 1 min read >

The 11 Best Gifts to Give Yourself When Going Through A Heartbreak

A breakup is the shake up you need to redirect your life. When I work with people going through a breakup, they are in a lot of pain and wish they could fast-foward through it. But I'm always excited for them. I can see that...

Dec 9 · 4 min read >

A Pandemic is Still Not a Reason To Text Your Ex

Take the corona-tinted glasses off and repeat after me. I will not text my ex.

Mar 25 · 3 min read >

Why You Like Him More Than He Likes You

You choose (and stay with) people who are not equally invested in you because you don't love yourself enough to not settle for breadcrumbs (aka casual).

Oct 30 · 3 min read >

RENEW Breakup Bootcamp – May 1-4, 2020 – Upstate NY

Bridging the gap between science and spirituality, RENEW will immerse you in a program designed to release old patterns and rewire your subconscious mind. It's time to move forward.

Jul 25 · 52 sec read >

Seven Practical Steps to Heal After a Breakup

No, you are not going crazy. After a separation, there is a lot going on in the brain, and understanding the neuroscience of heartbreak will help you realize that feeling sad after a breakup is natural.

Apr 1 · 7 min read >

The Science Behind Breaking Up

Going through a breakup or a heartache? Here's the science behind why your heart aches and how to get back up.

Mar 20 · 5 min read >

A Letter to a Friend Going Through Heartbreak

We must not give away our power, our light and not let any of the past harm the future. We must get back up each and every time, and still approach the world and relationships with hope, love and softness.

Oct 7 · 1 min read >

How to Pick Yourself Up After a Breakup

Your world can feel like it's turned upside down when suddenly the star of your dreams turns into the villain of your nightmares.

Nov 4 · 4 min read >

Gettting Over an Ex

My 'Ask Amy' Column as seen in the 24 Hours Newspaper. Dear Amy I don't know how to get over an ex-boyfriend who has hurt me a while ago. Every time I see him and his new girlfriend, I only pity myself. He has given...

Feb 15 · 1 min read >

Processing the Pain of Infidelity

This time last year, I was in Paris with the man I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with. I remember praying, saying thank you to the universe, for the relationship and love I had in my life. I trusted my partner and...

Sep 24 · 7 min read >

Processing Pain

I’m starting to understand and appreciate that situations, such as breakups, loss, etc – can act like catalysts. Painful as they may be, they are opportunities in disguise, that give you the chance to rewrite the stories we attach to past events that ultimately shape...

Aug 20 · 1 min read >

Opening Up My Heart Again

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Sometimes that reason comes in the form of a harsh, uncomfortable lesson. And sometimes, that reason comes in the form of a light, positive memory to remind you that there is good...

Jul 30 · 1 min read >

Dealing with Anger After a Breakup

In my reaction to dehumanize the object of my anger, I have forgotten compassion. Compassion for him, and compassion for myself.

Jul 4 · 1 min read >

Rewriting the Script

While I cannot change my childhood, my upbringing and my history, I can change my reaction to it. The memories of events may stay the same, but my internalization of such events don't have to.

Jun 11 · 1 min read >

Breakups are Blessings

The relationships that don’t work out aren't failures nor are they a waste of time. They are meant to happen because they are preparing you for the person you are meant to end up with, and the person you are meant to be.

Mar 20 · 2 min read >


When you go through a breakup, one of the ways to move forward is to find closure. Closure has different meanings for many, but to me, it is a process. In that process you allow your feelings, hurt and pain to surface. As much as...

Feb 9 · 1 min read >

Unhappily Ever After

There was once a point in time where you were deep in the throws of love, and it was as if your partner could do no wrong. You integrate into each others’ lives, you laugh, you play… you love. Then time goes by, and for...

Dec 15 · 1 min read >

I fall. I cry. I get back up.

If you’ve been following some of my recent blogs, you will know that in the past recent months, I’ve been thrown a few life challenges. To sum it up, I lost my job, my income, endured an abrupt and painful breakup, and lastly, lost my...

Dec 12 · 2 min read >

To You.

To You. The last few months have been one of the most challenging times of my life. I lost my job, my income, and along with that, a part of my identity. Then, the relationship with the man who I thought I was going to...

Dec 1 · 2 min read >

My letter to a dear friend going through a breakup…(an old post from 2009)

Breakups are never easy…and even though you survived your first one a few years ago, for some reason, it doesn’t get “easier” the next time it happens…it’s just different. You hurt just the same, in fact, the magnitude may feel even greater. Your heart feels...

Nov 16 · 2 min read >

The Heart Is Where The Home Is

After a breakup, you realize that on top of losing your romantic partner, you lose many other aspects of your life as well. Topping the list: community, family, companionship, security, stability, and the hardest one of them all -  your sense of home. It’s a...

Nov 8 · 1 min read >

Lesson of Heartbreak

I've been blessed with a very fortunate life. But like everyone else out there, I've had my share of hardships and demons to battle with. I've been through the death of close friends, been bullied to the point of misery, hurt my self-esteem repeatedly, and...

Oct 31 · 1 min read >

Remember the Good

When you experience a breakup or heartache, it is easy to focus on everything that went wrong. Your mind plays every disappointment and argument like a movie reel. Suddenly you have selective memory, and forget that there was once a time when the relationship was...

Oct 19 · 1 min read >

I Don’t Love You Anymore

A year ago today, the hardest words I think a woman will ever hear were said to me. “I don’t love you anymore.” “I no longer want to spend the rest of my life… with you.” I can still remember the blur, the feeling, the...

Nov 7 · 2 min read >