I’ve heard people joke about Vancouver having a significant amount of gold diggers. For those of you who are not familiar with the term, the Urban Dictionary defines a gold digger as:
“Any woman whose primary interest in a relationship is material benefits. A woman who cares more about a man’s bank account than she does about the man.”
Outrageous as it sounds, gold diggers are indeed quite prevalent in our city. The question is, in this day and age where there are an abundance of opportunities for women in the workforce and a variety of rewarding careers paths to choose from, why would any woman fake feelings for a man in exchange for a lifestyle?
Perhaps it’s the warped messages of fairytales that cause females to search for a wealthy prince to sweep them off their feet. Or maybe it’s the longing of a life filled with bubbles, brunches and Balenciaga bags. Another contributing factor to the desire and glamourization of gold digging could be the fact that we are bombarded by “reality” TV shows, such as The Real Housewives of Vancouver and Keeping up with the Kardashians, that set unrealistic standards of materialism and unobtainable luxury for the average person.
The media doesn’t exactly do a good job in depicting the not so happily-ever-after ending of a gold-digger. You see, sleeping with a rich guy doesn’t get you his money. Gold digging enables you to lease a lifestyle. You may get to borrow his car, eat fancy dinners and get some lavish gifts, but sooner or later, he gets bored of you, he cheats on you, he upgrades, or for whatever reason, you break up. And then, you’re back to square one. That is, square one plus some pretty bad feelings after being discarded and objectified which usually aren’t the most nurturing for the self-esteem or soul.
The value exchange is not in favour for the woman. The transaction usually goes like this: a rich man (often older) gives his value (money) in exchange for a beautiful, sexy woman (usually younger). While the man continues to increase his value of money through time, the woman’s “assets” – based purely on physical factors and society’s definition of beauty, will start to depreciate through time.
Make your own money – because you can and it’s a lot more rewarding earning your own trips and lifestyle. Stop being impressed by rich dudes who don’t really care about you and desire only your looks and how you look like on his arm. I’m not saying to not fall in love with a nice, wealthy man, I’m saying don’t sleep with him solely because of his cashflow. You end up paying a high price in some shape or form.
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The Dating Game
You’re confusing Gold Digging with “Sugar Baby…ing”.
A sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship is exactly as you depicted above. They get food, clothes, rent, cars and whatever they want in the time they’re still wanted by the guy with roll.
Typically this sort of relationship is not viewed as “career path”, it’s a way to make ends meet or supplement income. Or they just like being doted upon. Some of them have crushes for older men, and most of them aren’t looking for a “happily ever after” scenario with that guy. Instead of sleazing it up at the bar, they sleaze it up n pricate penthouses.
Gold digging on the other hand is a career choice. But the entire purpose of gold digging is to have the wealthy man marry you. Then him getting bored of you is the best case scenario, as you escape a free woman with half of everything he has made.
Both of these things can be a positive choice for all parties involved. Obviously it can all be done for the wrong reasons, but the idea of one man for one woman with endless ever-after love is a fantasy for the majority of the world.
The other way around is a possibility also. I know, as I have been scammed under the guise of “love” when I financially supported “my man” through two lay offs.
I agree with Sean this is not being a Gold Digger..it is being a sugar baby..or lady LOL
Many men don’t want you working and self sufficient. They say they do. But when they get close to you or you allow them to see that you do work, sometimes 2 or 3 jobs, they verbally put you down. Even other women ask, why you don’t get a man to give you money. Men are against women who are self sufficient. They don’t respect you through thier actions. Soon they leave you. They really want a woman who begs for money for the car note, shoes, rent, hair, grocery, etc. They want the gold digger.