My Very Own, Choose Your Own Adventure Book

Your twenties are such a whimsical time of your life. Your twenties marks the decade where you will endure your many firsts...

Written by Amy C · 2 min read >
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Your twenties are such a whimsical time of your life. Your twenties marks the decade where you will endure your many firsts –your first real job, first love, first home, first reality check…

Looking back at some recent events of my life I’ve realized that, life is like a Choose Your Own Adventure novel. You make these critical decisions that ultimately sway you on one path or another. Each path heading a different direction, with its own twists and turns, destination unknown.

In love – when I was younger, I always thought you were destined for your one and only soul mate. However, I’ve realized that you can have many loves, and you may even share love with a soul mate but not end up being with that person.

You may question, “Whatever happened to the belief that love is predetermined by fate and stars and all that other magical stuff – this theory of multiple loves is surely not romantic enough!

Sure it is. I’m not saying to have multiple relationships at a time, I’m saying that it’s about finding a person you are truly compatible with and letting love develop with that person. “Once your love develops, he will become the only one for you…It is your heart not destiny, that turns a mere man into a unique, irreplaceable partner for all your ways” (Kearns).

I once connected with a person who was unavailable. While our feelings, still young, were mutual, the reality was that he was already committed to another person. While nothing developed more than a deep and caring friendship, it is interesting to consider, what could have been if he had made a different choice. We would probably be the main characters together in our Choose Your Own Adventure book. But he didn’t. He made his choice and stuck with it, and his path, his story, will be a different one, not better, not worse, just different. As so will mine.

But how can you love someone and still connect with someone else? Well, I think you can fully love and respect your partner, but still naturally connect with others. When you are young, you may decide to act on each one of those connections – you have more freedom to hop around, test different opportunities. But there comes a point when you realize that temptations and different connections will always exist, but at some point you have to make a choice – and with faith, stay true to that decision.

Life is funny that way – it tests you, tempts you, and often throws doubts at you. All you can do is go along with the journey with dignity, honesty and openness. What is important is that no matter which path you walk or which destination you land – you know that at the end of day, you walked each step true to your principles and values.

I want to end off with a thank you…to those who have been such an impact on my life, my dreams, my choices. And to all my readers – some who I’ve met in person, and some who I have not – thank you for taking the time to read my blogs, for your comments and for those kind messages that are always so supportive and positive.

Thank you for being a part of my adventure.

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Written by Amy C
Amy Chan is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing the heart. Marie Claire calls her "A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw" and her company has been featured across national media including Good Morning America, Vogue, Glamour, Nightline along with the front page of The New York Times. Her book, Breakup Bootcamp - The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, published by Harper Collins, will be released Fall 2020. Profile

4 Replies to “My Very Own, Choose Your Own Adventure Book”

  1. Hi Amy, I read your article on 24 hours and totally blew me away because you had just described what I’m going through right now: I’ve connected with a person who feels the same way about me but is committed to another person. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us, your insight did help me open up my views.
    PS. now I’ll be a loyal follower of your blog.

  2. My ex-gf told me about your blog. I’m at work reading this first article – your words, from deep within your soul, can only say one thing about you:

    You are an inspirational person. In my opinion, being an inspiration to others is the ultimate privilege in life.
    God bless you.


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