Dating is always such a delicate dance. You don’t want to make the wrong move, and God forbid you take the wrong step that causes you to fall. Dating is a hormonally charged experience that involves a lot of guessing, hoping and wondering if and how much the other person likes you. While women can spend hours deciphering the different hidden meanings a one-sentence text message has, the truth is, there is not much science in figuring out if the apple of your eye is in to you…
If a guy likes you:
- He will call you. No, your phone isn’t broken. No, his text message/email didn’t get lost in cyberspace. He simply hasn’t tried to contact you. And if for some reason the cyber boogyman intercepted his message from hitting your inbox, he will eventually try to contact you a second time. Men who like you will initiate communication with you.
- He will try to see you. If a guy is into you, he will make the effort to see you again. It doesn’t matter how busy he is, if he feels that getting to know you is a priority, he will make time in his schedule to meet you.
- He will touch you. Observe his body language as it speaks volumes. When a guy is interested, he will make subtle body contact. For example, he may lightly touch your arm or gently place his hand behind your back or waist. High fives and elbow nudges don’t count.
- He will make future plans with you. When a man is interested in you, he will want to secure seeing you again and will likely do so before the first date is over. He will find a common interest and suggest “We should do that…” Even if he doesn’t solidify plans right then and there, he will allude to future plans with you in it.
- He will text you out of the blue. Perhaps he saw something that reminded him of you. Perhaps he’s trying to start a conversation. Regardless, random, spontaneous texts show that for whatever reason it may be, he is thinking of you.
- He will ask you out. No explanation required. Men who like you will ask you out. True, you may need to give him some indicators that you are not going to flat out reject him (because most men are secretly quite afraid of rejection from a woman). So throw a dog a bone, and sit back. If he’s into you, he’ll initiate making plans with you
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and I guess if the guy does all those things but never admits to having feelings for the woman…. should he just say it?
I would say yes. But then there was a guy who did all these things and when I finally said I was interested in him, rejected me. Frankly I’ll never trust men again, so do what feels natural. You guys have all the power anyway. Select doll from shelf, play mind games on her, plunder her body and soul, break her heart, repeat on next doll, win.
I hate being a woman 🙁
So my question to you now Amy is, can the same six things be attributed to a woman who’s really into a guy?
Hi Jamie,
In my opinion, I think men and women show interest and “court” differently. Perhaps it’s the way we were socialized, perhaps it’s because of traditions engrained from generations past. For example, I think that a woman’s feelings for a man can grow over time. If he does sweet things, is kind, shows good character… there is a chance that eventually, she will fall for him. I do not think this works the other way around. If a man is not attracted/interested in a woman, it doesn’t matter how many sweet gestures she does, it won’t make him like her any more.
Sometimes, a woman doesn’t even know she is interested romantically, so she won’t give off these signs.
^ ^ ^ Excellent response Amy! So well put!
There are exceptions, when your dealing with
A painfully shy male. I think it is okay to give that
Guy your number to get the ball rolling, if he
Doesn’t choose to use it then it’s time to
forget about him.
I am confused, this totally about me and this guy, but step 6 was odd. He did not really ask me out, it was an implied invite or an awkward invite. He off Sundays and Mondays, he asked what day is the game on i said Wednesday. flash forward 3 weeks, he had that day off,who knows if he asked for that day off or if he just had three days off that week. but a week before the game. he was like, you know i have Monday off because of the holiday so me and Jake are going to buffalo wild wings to watch the game because i am off Wednesday because of the holiday so me and jake are going to be at buffalo wild wings and we are going to watch the game.he said the same thirty words and stood there laughing and smiling like a dork.i didn’t show up because i didn’t think he liked me because i liked him and i didn’t want to see em like a stalker. but he still stares at me. but he does not do the head nod thing as much as he used to did i lose my chance
I was so sure about it. There were all 6 signs of it. But he told me he wasn’t interested in me and he’s going back to his ex girlfriend. And I’ve invested so much emotions.
Numbers 1 and 6 are just plain wrong.
This kind of thinking just strengthens the attitude that guys should always be the ones who have to act. Guarantee, if you sit you on your ass following this advice, you’re going to miss out on a few gems. And number 3? Not all guys are the touchy-flirty type.
So… at best we’re at 3 for 6 here.
Spot on. Us guys don’t drop hints or beat around the bush – if we like you, we will contact you and want to see you. It’s that simple.