Dating is always such a delicate dance. You don’t want to make the wrong move, and God forbid you take the wrong step that causes you to fall. Dating is a hormonally charged experience that involves a lot of guessing, hoping and wondering if and how much the other person likes you. While women can spend hours deciphering the different hidden meanings a one-sentence text message has, the truth is, there is not much science in figuring out if the apple of your eye is in to you…
If a guy likes you:
- He will call you. No, your phone isn’t broken. No, his text message/email didn’t get lost in cyberspace. He simply hasn’t tried to contact you. And if for some reason the cyber boogyman intercepted his message from hitting your inbox, he will eventually try to contact you a second time. Men who like you will initiate communication with you.
- He will try to see you. If a guy is into you, he will make the effort to see you again. It doesn’t matter how busy he is, if he feels that getting to know you is a priority, he will make time in his schedule to meet you.
- He will touch you. Observe his body language as it speaks volumes. When a guy is interested, he will make subtle body contact. For example, he may lightly touch your arm or gently place his hand behind your back or waist. High fives and elbow nudges don’t count.
- He will make future plans with you. When a man is interested in you, he will want to secure seeing you again and will likely do so before the first date is over. He will find a common interest and suggest “We should do that…” Even if he doesn’t solidify plans right then and there, he will allude to future plans with you in it.
- He will text you out of the blue. Perhaps he saw something that reminded him of you. Perhaps he’s trying to start a conversation. Regardless, random, spontaneous texts show that for whatever reason it may be, he is thinking of you.
- He will ask you out. No explanation required. Men who like you will ask you out. True, you may need to give him some indicators that you are not going to flat out reject him (because most men are secretly quite afraid of rejection from a woman). So throw a dog a bone, and sit back. If he’s into you, he’ll initiate making plans with you
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I cannot agree with this – I feel for a guy who showed all 6 signs and he dumped me after 6 weeks. I do not know of anyone being this bipolar – but then again when I refered to his behavoir against you article “11 Differences Between Dating a Boy vs a Man” – he was a boy.
Elle,
Same situation as me. Mine left after 1 year and he said we are just friends. I guess there are quite a few of such guys out there.
Dont disagree with this because it didnt work out after 6 weeks. This post is for the initial stage and whether or not he likes you. Just because he liked you initially doesn’t mean he still will 6 weeks later. Actually you should be glad it didn’t drag out longer than the 6 weeks.
Hmm I noticed I’ve done all this to someone and I do quite like her. Only problem is that its (mostly) a long distance thing and I can never tell how much she likes me (cos I know she does)
This is a generalization. To assume that guys don’t analyze things is the same thing as assuming all women are detail-obsessed control freaks.
When dating my husband of 6 years we both unintentionally played these head-games in the beginning, for about a year. We had no idea what the other was thinking and were both afraid and messed up from previous relationships. We weren’t hurting each other on purpose, or trying to act immature: we were both worried about getting hurt or jumping into something too fast or not fast enough.
Guess what girls: guys are just as confused and bewildered as you are. Assuming that they are 100% straightforward is the same as saying that all girls are deliberately metaphorical and devious. We are human beings. There is no easy answer.
And you don’t need to consult a blog to answer what’s in your heart.
Coming from someone happily married, post-headgame.
Over n’ out.
Theoretically I definitely agree. I believe all people are unique and shouldn’t abide by gender standards because society dictates us to. On the other hand, blogs like this are an encouragement for every reader, men and women, to be more straightforward and true, which, in your case – and most “good” cases- will just save people a lot of time and help them filter the players -again, men and women.
Yes, yes, and yes.
For me, touch is a big deal, and I don’t want to make a girl feel uncomfortable (especially on a first meeting) so I honestly I let girls initiate that. For me it’s the opposite, actually- I feel that if a guy respects you, he’s not going to touch you, but leave the door open for you to touch him. Going back to the “boys and men” analogy, boys are presumptive about being able to lay a hand on you. Men let you choose to what degree touch is OK and then match it if they’re still interested. If a girl touches me, it’s a big cue for me that she likes me and feels comfortable around me.
#3. I think you should consider high fives and elbow nudges as part of subtle body contact.
Yes I agree!
I think you should a a piece “6 sure signs she like you” haha
ya…I need the “6 signs she likes me”. At 40 years old and trying the online dating thing this past 8 months I’m still just as confused over women (though it turns out many of them were girls now that I’ve read that article here…). I get a lot of mixed signals. But generally on the touch I agree with David. I never presume to touch a girl I’m interested in unless I really know she is ok with it. Call it the “Old fashioned gentleman” in me. I’ve been trying the online dating because my life is pretty busy (and I don’t do the bar scene…) and most of my friends are married and the eligible prospects in my social circle are virtually non-existent. I’ve found that many people are completely different in person then when talking online. And I’m not talking just appearance (though there is a lot of that too…)
nice article, it was a nice reminder of what to look for when you are lost amidst the dating world. look back to all of your successful relationships, these 6 points happened. we all know when it’s not going to work out, it’s when you just ask a million questions because you’re in denial that it’s not the one.
6 sure signs she likes you:
She says yes to
a 1st date
a 2nd date
a 3rd date
a 4th date
a 5th date
a 6th date
and perhaps somewhere in there she offers to make you dinner
and around date 6 she sleeps with you and says yes to date 7
😉
…This is very interesting information on how to answer ” does he like me”…i have been dating online and i can assure you, this information come in handy!!..Thank you!!
I did all 6 sign, but being reject that when i tried to confess. Not even able to confess already get reject. But we still hangout together or dinner once a week. We look close but not till the stage of dating. Neither I cam read what she thinking nor what her feeling towards me.
Another thing is, she is les. I wonder is this the reason I’m being reject? Or I’m just filling up her free time when she lonely?