A breakup is the shake up you need to redirect your life.
When I work with people going through a breakup, they are in a lot of pain and wish they could fast-foward through it. But I’m always excited for them. I can see that the breaking apart was necessary for them to break open, to start their next chapter, renewed.
This is your time to focus on your healing and self-care. So what better time than now to throw yourself a breakup party. Yes, breakup with unhelpful patterns of the past, the people you’ve outgrown (including your ex) and use this time, to heal, to learn, to grow, and nurture yourself back to a stronger, more resilient, wiser version of you.
Now’s your time to commit to daily rituals, doing things that help you feel grounded and balanced, allowing yourself time and space to reflect, and process your emotions. While you’re at it, here are some helpful gifts you can give yourself as you navigate the separation process.
1. Infrared Crystal Mat by HealthyLine
If you’ve ever wondered if there’s such thing as a healing mat, look no further. Maybes it’s the 13 pounds of natural amethyst crystals mixed with tourmaline and jade gemstones, or the different therapeutic technology included, that makes lying on this mat the best part of my day.
Far infrared technology that has been shown to increase circulation, decrease inflammation and reduce sore muscles.
Photon light therapy helps destroy old cells, helping you detox. Also stimulates collagen production.
PEMF therapy (Pulsed Electromagnetic Field technology) has been proven to recharge and repair cells.
Since people who are experiencing stress and anxiety tend to have trouble sleeping, this mat can be great to help relax the body, recharge cells and activate the Parasympathetic Nervous System for a deep full-body reset, and make falling asleep easier. The Taj mat is the most popular model that includes all the features.
$499-$1,499 on HealthyLine online shop
2. Woodlot Candle
Create a space in your home that can be your ‘safe space’. This is where you go to meditate, journal, and lie on your new healing mat! Create a stress-free space by adding the right elements in the room. Candles, soft pillows, your favorite tunes and a lovely collection of books might be the magic formula you need for relaxation. Woodlot candles are made with natural and ethical ingredients and come in a variety of flavors.
$26-$34 on Woodlot online shop
3. Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart
Breakup Bootcamp is the perfect gift for anyone who wants to learn how to turn heartbreak into healing. It’s a a self-affirming guide for everyone—single or married, divorced or dating that can help anyone shift old relationship patterns and beliefs, using tried and tested methods rooted in cutting-edge psychology and research.
4. What’s Your Story? A Journal for Everyday Evolution
A journal that can help you reframe your story and ponder the insights of your soul. This is a workbook to rewrite your life and transform the scripts that do not serve you.
“What’s your story?” provides thoughtful prompts to helps you in your reflection, rewiring and get to the root of your feelings.
5. RMS lipstick
Get out of your pajamas, put on something that makes you feel confident and smack on some red lipstick. Even if you want to do like Bridget Jones and eat ice cream in your pajamas all day, you’re only going to feed your feelings of sadness.
You’ll be surprised at how dressing up and putting on some fierce lipstick can make you feel more Beyonce and less Bridget. But of course, go natural. RMS makes great beauty products that are created using natural ingredients.
6. Juju Be Gone cleansing kit
Detox from your ex and get rid of any bad juju! With this kit, you get the starter pack of spiritual cleansing: enter sage, Palo Santo, a candle and a few extras to help you clear the space of bad vibes, literally! All of Juju’s products are sourced from sustainable companies and it’s not difficult to understand why this cleansing kit is one of their best-sellers.
7. Membership to The Class Digital Studio
After a breakup, you need to get a new source of feel good chemicals and exercise is a healthy way of attaining this. The Class is no ordinary workout, it’s cardio mixed with heart pumping movements that make you feel like a warrior! A flexible schedule and online classes seven days a week: The Class is a wonderful solution to include some movement into your daily routine and allow your body to release endorphins – the feel-good brain chemicals.
$52.09/month on The Class website
8. Bennd Yoga Mat
Did you know that many yoga mats are made with harmful chemicals and dyes? When you’re trying to get your OM on, the last thing you need is to inhale the fumes from synthetics and carcinogenic chemicals.
Enter Bennd – a new wellness company that offers a wide range of yoga mats, meditation pillows and yoga bolsters that are hand-loomed and medicinally dyed with an exclusive formula of 22 different Ayurvedic medicines. All of Bennd’s products are made with ethically sourced, natural materials. It’s said that these mats can help balance the chakras and by absorbing the herbs through the mat, it boosts the immune system and helps aid in focus ability.
10. Don’t Just Sit There – Book
In her book Don’t Just Sit There: 44 Insights to Get Your Meditation Practice Off the Cushion and Into the Real World, Biet Simkin provides practical, useful tools and deep insights on how to live more consciously and full of love. This is a living guide, a loving guide, a what-can-I-do-right-now to generate my own inner peace guide.
10. Daily Harvest Delivery
After a breakup, it’s a natural reaction to lose your appetite. That’s because the body is in survival mode and suddenly what to have for dinner takes a lower rank on the priority list. But if the body is not functioning, there is no way you can start healing emotionally. You must eat, and feed yourself nutritious food – because the heart, mind, body and soul are all connected.
Cooking may not be on top of the list when you are busy trying to hold your life together after a break-up, but getting some extra nutrients is something that could definitely help you feel better.
11. Wildling Aura Collection
Gua Sha is a 700+ year old practice with roots in traditional Chinese medicine, and has been used both as a type of family folk medicine as well as in clinical practice by licensed acupuncturists and in Chinese-style bodywork.
Wildling is your one-stop shop for starting your gua sha ritual. As Vogue’s writers said in a recent article, gua sha is the original form of at-home self-care. Wildling’s Aura Collection is a carefully designed gift set that combines the effectiveness of gua sha, lymphatic massage and nourishing oils. Use gua sha to release tension and create a self-love ritual after you shower – where you honor and thank your body and take the time to gua sha and nourish your skin with the oils.
Remember, a heartbreak requires time and space to heal. Refrain from judging your emotions as good or bad. Double up on your self-care. Reach out to friends or find a support group so you can feel seen and heard. Do things that feed your soul!
Know that you’re not alone. Remind yourself that as much as it’s uncomfortable (and maybe downright horrible) right now, it will pass. The emotions don’t stay forever.
Take care of yourself.
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