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The Plan That Was Never Yours

The plan consisted of a linear progression of relationship that looked like this: date, get married, have kids, stay together forever. They would do anything to keep that plan intact - even if that meant enduring abuse and sacrificing their needs.

Jun 20 · 3 min read >

The Wound That Causes You To Over Give

Not all giving is created equal, as there are different roots of “giving”. The gift may appear the same on the outside, but the root of that gift creates completely different energy.

May 15 · 2 min read >

Sorry, I’m Not Sorry

As I started to become more comfortable in my own skin, and more aligned in my values, I realized that I value being authentic more than being liked. And actually, I'm not sorry.

May 9 · 3 min read >

Forget Valentine’s Day, Here’s How to Create a Love That Lasts

Loving yourself is not a destination. Loving yourself is a muscle you build. When we approach self-love as a way of living, rather than some elevated state of being, we can choose at this exact moment to start.

Feb 13 · 4 min read >

The Lie That Keeps You Single

“I want a relationship. I’m ready to settle down with someone.” Bullshit. I'm calling your bluff and I’m guilty of lying too. On a conscious level, we think we’re ready – we want a meaningful connection, we want to share adventures with someone, we want...

Dec 15 · 4 min read >

The Most Profound Spiritual Experience of My Life

Love is not a limited resource. You can have many different kinds of love, with different people. One is not better or worse, the dynamic is always unique in its own way.

Jan 23 · 4 min read >

The Conversation That Harms Our Self-Worth

When women get together, often this is what they talk about, and it's feeding a cycle that disempowers women. Are you guilty of this?

Feb 26 · 2 min read >

Who You Calling Crazy?

I think of "crazy" as what happens when we love the other person more than we love ourselves,

Feb 25 · 1 min read >

My Darling Girl

Don’t let someone who never had the intention or openness to receive your love harm your spirit. Someone else’s inability to see your essence does not make you any less lovable.

Sep 11 · 1 min read >

Back To Equilibrium

After a massive fight with my father last night, my first reaction was to get on a flight and leave. But in the mess of negative emotions that have been triggered, I realize that there's an opportunity here for me to evolve my communication and...

May 1 · 1 min read >

How to Be a Better Human – A Contract With Myself

I’ve never been big on new years resolutions. Setting grand, lofty resolutions only to be forgotten weeks into the year may be well intended, but for the most part, are ineffective. I am a true believer that it’s the small, everyday changes we make that...

Dec 16 · 4 min read >

How to Harness the Power of ‘No’

One of the first steps of establishing self-respect and garnering respect from others is to know your boundaries, and when/how to enforce them. Here are some tips on how you can harness the power of 'no'.

Nov 20 · 4 min read >

You’re Not Happy, You’re Distracted

To determine if you are truly happy, ask yourself this question...

Nov 18 · 3 min read >

Power of Influence

“In one week American teenagers spend 31 hours watching TV, 17 hours listening to music, 3 hours watching movies, 4 hours reading magazines, 10 hours online. That’s 10 hours and 45 minutes of media consumption a day.” - Miss Representation The media is beyond powerful....

Nov 2 · 2 min read >

20 Things I Would Tell My 20-Year-Old Self

If I were to have a frank tête-à-tête with my 20 year old self, here’s what I’d tell her:

Sep 17 · 1 min read >

A Note of Gratitude to My Readers

You never know how a gesture, regardless of how small it may seem, can have such a profound and positive impact on someone else.

Jun 29 · 1 min read >

The Pursuit of Pretty is an Endless One

To the women reading this piece, the next time your inner self-critic takes over when you're looking in the mirror, I challenge you to stop the negative dialogue about your looks. I encourage you to instead of obsessing over how to become prettier, you ask...

Jun 23 · 1 min read >

Why I’m OK With Being Single

Trust the process. Know that every heartache is just preparing you for the person you are meant to be with. Have faith that sometimes, things don't work out with someone in the present because they are meant to work with somebody else in the future.

Jun 15 · 2 min read >

You Are the Sum of the Company You Keep

You either have integrity or you don't. There is no such thing as having integrity part-time and only when it is convenient. Integrity is when your good intentions meet your actions - on a consistent basis.

Jun 14 · 44 sec read >

Ashley Judd and Changing the Conversation About Self Image

We need to stop tearing down other women because in society's eyes, they aren't skinny enough, pretty enough or young enough. If we don't stop the vicious cycle, who will?

Jun 1 · 1 min read >

5 Don’ts I Would Tell My Younger Self

If I could tell my younger self, and even the woman today who often forgets, I would tell her, "love yourself more, and the rest will fall into place."

Jul 24 · 4 min read >

You Are Beautiful

Don't let the story in your head about who you should be take away from the perfect, amazing person you are right now.

May 30 · 1 min read >

I was born a dreamer…

I was born a dreamer. Experience taught me to become a realist...

Apr 28 · 33 sec read >

Are Men Trained To Hate Women?

I read an interesting article titled, 5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women. Is it true? Is the root reason behind why some men cheat, abuse, use violence, salivate over strippers, and dehumanize the opposite sex, because of the way the way they...

Mar 27 · 1 min read >

5 Lessons on Love

Every birthday, I take time to reflect on the past year – my accomplishments, hardships and most importantly, the lessons learned. Because of all the mistakes and observations I made in my twenties, I've learned many lessons that I can now bring into my thirties......

Feb 23 · 4 min read >

What I Want for Valentine’s Day

This Valentine’s Day, forget the flowers, the chocolates, the fancy dinners or the lingerie. Forget the grand gestures. Forgo the typical. This Valentine’s Day, I want something different, something that takes a lot more effort and most importantly a daily choice. This Valentine’s Day I...

Feb 14 · 1 min read >

Are You Beautiful on the Inside?

There was once a time that if I heard any of the following: "spirituality, inner peace, vegan, money doesn't buy happiness..." I'd nod my head while rolling my eyes thinking, "Enough of this new-age hippie stuff". I guess like most lessons in life, you don't...

Jan 17 · 2 min read >

Your Worth

We’ve all been there – feeling victimized by a friend, a boss, or a lover – who has treated us poorly or unfairly. It’s an easy and common tendency to blame the other, make yourself out as the innocent, while seeking out particular people who...

Nov 15 · 3 min read >

Choose to Win

Choose to win. Choose to be better, every day. Try harder -- put in the effort and the hard work to make things happen for you. Aim further. If you settle for less or put a limit to how far you can go -- you...

Jul 14 · 1 min read >

Not So, “Sex and the City”

Armed in stilettos from Manolo to Madden, females all over the world have been anticipating Sex and the City 2 to hit the theaters. I’ve been a long time fan of the sitcom and admit to many times rolling on the floor laughing all the...

Jul 9 · 3 min read >

The Aftermath of Bullying

Do you know how young someone can be when they start to contemplate harmful thoughts, such as suicide? For me, I was 10 years old. I was bullied at school so badly that I would cry everyday, and be scared from the minute the bell...

Jun 28 · 2 min read >

Good vs Great Relationships

Men hunt and women nurture right? The concept of the man who hunts for his prey, spreads his seeds and conquers while the woman is looking for a caretaker, and a healthy and providing father is a story we’ve all heard many times.  While in...

May 13 · 2 min read >

Lessons Learned This Birthday

Today is my birthday. Another year lived, and what a year it has been. Components of my life have changed dramatically – my home, my career, my headspace…I guess you can say, I’ve grown up. While I will always be the girl who gets excited...

Feb 17 · 3 min read >

The Vitamin Kind

Secret confession:  I am kicking a habit of drugs. Hold your gasps, I’m not talking about the narcotics kind, I’m talking about the boy kind. Let me explain to you the “drug” kind – also known as the “bad boy”. Often attractive, charismatic, popular and...

Oct 7 · 2 min read >

Rejection Reread

When I was a little girl, I moved from an all Asian school to an all Caucasian school at the age of 6. I went from being the most popular kid to the girl who pretended to play “hide and go seek” at lunch break...

Sep 16 · 3 min read >